Apr 24

Practicing law involves a lot of stress. Practicing law while managing a law practice involves even more.

Solo|Stress Connection is an online discussion and support group designed for solo and small firm lawyers to address their unique causes of stress under the experienced leadership of Dr. Jeff Fortgang, PhD. It’s free and confidential.

Register now to join the conversation THIS WEEK on Friday, April 28th. Stress Awareness Month is almost over.

Jeff has noticed many lawyers sign up for the group expecting a webinar. We understand that busy lawyers love webinars, but seeking social support is a particularly positive way to respond to stress.

So Jeff wrote an Ode to clarify that this is a support group (not a webinar!). An ode is not typically the way to clarify anything, but Jeff also wrote Rod Stewart’s Some Guys Have All the Luck so we give him some artistic license. Behold:

A group is not a webinar
A webinar is not a group,
They both are good for barristers,
But not the same, so here’s the scoop.

In webinars, you mostly listen,
Info useful, say, in court
In groups you also share your thinking,
Getting feedback and support.

Webinars are full of content
Flowing mostly toward the crowd.
Groups are more like conversation
Problem-solving right out loud.

Proper practice is essential
Webinars can help you through.
Groups are much more confidential
You can say what’s true for you.

Sometimes stressed-out solo lawyers
Wonder why they joined the bar.
Group respects you and connects you,
But it’s not a webinar!

Contact Jeff at drjeff@lclma.org (or 617 482 5003) with any questions or to share your experience with a rhyming dictionary.

Apr 18

There is probably no better example of acting before you feel like it than the concept of bravery. By definition, bravery requires one to act in the face of fear, not the absence of it. We can often misuse bravery to imply that someone does not experience fear in a situation (“Look at her, she’s so confident and brave. Nothing rattles her.”). When we misuse the word bravery we can inadvertently tell ourselves that being brave requires a sense of unflappable confidence. Bravery suddenly seems at odds with doubt and fear. Quite the contrary, bravery is acting despite our doubt and fear. Continue reading »

Mar 28

“I feel ready. Now I can act.” The order of those phrases sounds logical. First you feel ready and then you act on that feeling. No obvious controversy there. Yet some of the common phrases we toss around in everyday conversation are not only inaccurate, but they also negatively affect our abilities to accomplish what we desire. This is often used in terms of assessing our motivation to do something difficult. In this example, waiting to feel motivated (or ready) will most often prevent you from accomplishing something that you never knew was possible. In fact reversing the order of those original ideas is often more accurate and advantageous. I decide to act and then I notice my feelings changing. Continue reading »

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